(seduction community, neologism) A person who inadequately or never has sex despite wishing to.
2004, Phineas Mollod & Jason Tesauro, The Modern Lover: A Playbook for Suitors, Spouses & Ringless Carousers, Ten Speed Press (2004), , page 90:Though, involuntary celibates (or incels) shouldn't try to rationalize a dateless season or pass off sexual awkwardness as virtue;
2009, Luisa Dillner, Love by Numbers: The Hidden Facts Behind Everyone's Relationships, Profile Books (2009), , page 153:Another study by Donnelly of seventy-seven incels in marriages or long-term relationships in the Journal of Marriage and Family used a web-based questionnaire to ask people why they stayed in their sexless relationships (defined in this case as no sex for six months).
2009, Talmer Shockley, The Love-Shy Survival Guide, Jessica Kingsley Publishers (2009), , page 15:People generally find it difficult to relate to love-shys and incels and wrongly assume we could obtain romance if we tried harder or lowered our standards.