1999, James R. Ozinga, Altruism (page 11)One might even describe a monitored feedback loop that permits one to sense when insufficient loving is returning from the lovee, causing a lessening of the lover's efforts.
2009, Jonar Nader, How to Lose Friends and Infuriate Lovers (page 92)It's just that one is the lover, while the other is the lovee. Together, they make love. One has an obligation to nurture, and the other has a duty of care.
